However it´s very common to see couples struggling with different issues, such as, a lack of communication, trust or respect.
The thing we all want to know is. HOW can we have a healthy marriage, since the beggining and that lasts for all life and that we are longing to make it eternal?
Elder Bednar gives us the best way to achieve it, we have to live a marital life full of progress:
"The Lord Jesus Christ is the focal point in a covenant marriage relationship. PLease notice how the Savior is positioned at the apex of this triangle, with a woman at the base of one corner and a man at the other corner. Now consider what happens when in a relationship between the man and the woman as they individually and steadily "come unto Christ" and strive to be "perfected in Him"(Moroni 10:32). Because of and through the Redeemer, the man and woman come closer together. (Hawkins, 2012, p. 28.)
We must treat our spouse as the most precious blessing we can receive in this world, as usual, I have a video to share with you, it´s funny and has a great message, Hope you like it!
"Lasting Marriage"
A young couple talks to an older couple about marriage.
I found a really good article with great guide and tips to "Build an Eternal Marriage"
Building My Eternal Marriage
When
I was a teenager, I developed faith that marriage could be a wonderful
and eternal experience. It was difficult for me to always believe,
however, because the examples of marriage I had growing up were not
strong ones, and I kept a fear of marriage in my heart. But I determined
that failure and unhappiness didn’t have to be the rule and that
Heavenly Father would help me know how to have a happy marriage.
When
I was 26 years old, I married Sidnei in the São Paulo Brazil Temple.
While we were still dating, we tried to prepare ourselves spiritually
and emotionally for the most significant event of our lives. We decided
what type of marriage we wanted, we established goals together, and we
shared our thoughts—our testimonies of the gospel, our wishes and
worries, and our dreams. We also read together the counsel of the
prophets on marriage. We did everything we could to prepare, wishing to
provide happiness and security to each other and our future children. We
asked the Lord to give us wisdom to live a happy life.
Now
we have been married for 18 years. During these years, we have
continued to learn from the precepts of the gospel, the counsel of our
leaders, and, of course, the Spirit. Some of the things we have done to
have a strong, happy marriage are:
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1.
Pray together every day. When we pray at night, we thank
Heavenly Father for our marriage, for the love we have for each other,
and we ask that our feelings will be strengthened and that we can become
strong individually in the face of the designs of the adversary, who
works to destroy families.
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2.
Ask for forgiveness.
We work to never allow pride to keep us from asking for forgiveness or
admitting we are wrong. Love and unity are more important than who is
right or who is wrong.
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3.
Never speak evil of each other. It is obvious that neither of us
is perfect, but we don’t say bad things about each other, and when
we’re with others, we speak positively about each other.
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4.
Defend the institution of marriage. Whenever we have a
chance—and especially if we are around people who are criticizing the
institution of marriage—we stand up for families and what we believe in.
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5.
Talk a lot and listen. We stop what we are doing to really listen when the other person is talking.
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6.
Treat each other with love and consideration. We do not insult, accuse, or criticize each other.
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7.
Continue to seek help and counsel about marriage from the
scriptures and the words of modern prophets. We do not know everything.
We are imperfect and prone to forgetting and making mistakes. We prefer
not to wait for problems to afflict us, but instead we work to build a
strong marriage before a situation can hurt us.
These
things have been instrumental in strengthening the relationship between
my husband and me. I know that if we share our lives and our feelings
with Heavenly Father and seek counsel from Him, the Holy Ghost will inspire us and we will be able to become an eternal family, overcoming all difficult times. We also know that Heavenly Father will help us as we seek to know and do His will.
REFERENCES
Bednar, D.A. (2006, June.) Marriage is essential to His eternal plan. Ensign, 32, 82-87
Pontes, R.. (2011, September) Building my eternal Marriage. Ensign.
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